Definition-
In this ever-growing and intellectual and practical world,the only place that gives our olfactory factors a sense and smell of true
and unbiased emotions is the place beside a true friend.When we are obsessed by the monotony of ever-lasting difficulties,it is then
that we need a friend.In my view,a friend is a conscience-sharer.He knows when to laugh,when to just smile;when to speak and when
to just listen;when to hold you and when to let go.Yes,he knows it all.
Lost meaning-
Today,when our lives are overshadowed by the humdrums and daily noises,one of our most chimerical dream is to have a real true friend.
But as the brain works,the heart is being strangulated.We have misinterpretted the meaning of friendship.Friend is now the one with whom
we party hard,go for shopping,eating,smoking,drinking,facebook-chatting,but we never really share anything with him.Is friendship just
the word used for people you hang out with? No.Friend should be the one to whom you can talk your heart out.Some oofy people are made
friends for money and status matters.Friendship is lost in the prevailing selfishness.
Friends,Family and Foes-
Sometimes,the thin as well as blurred line of demarcation between the above three groups gets disappeared.Our family members try to top
the friends list,some friends tend to change to a foe and some foes are unfortunately our family members.
True friends always remain true.They don't backstab usor avoid the reason of doing it.They pour their heart out and
so it becomes an easy relationship wherein the conscience is free of any burden.In a Readers Digest article,the editors talked of things that
"A teenager will never tell you(family)".And it contained an illustration wherein a teenaer had not saved the phone numbers of some
friends just because he was afraid of their names popping on the screen as the family condemned that friendship.These are the scenarios
which tend to differentiate between friends and family.
Love and Friendship-
These are the most appealing to an adolescent.It is said that-
"Behind every lost love,there is misunderstanding,and behind every broken friendship,there is love.."
I disagree.If the love relationship is unaffected by the environment prevailing and is within limits and yet independent,no sort of
misunderstanding can bring it to a halt.An interstice can be filled by building a wall or by bridging the gap.Choice is in our hands.
If the conscience of those sharing a relationship are pure and healthy,no power can depart them,or even give a hairline crack to it.Love
can be departed infinitely and yet it increases.Friendship is less complicated,but yes,it has its limits too.In my personal view,any relationship,
family,love or friendship,must be sincere.I say 'sincere' and not 'serious'.Their meanings differ a lot.Serious is unhealthy,never
in a state of bliss.Sincerity towards everything can bring you in a state of spiritual bliss,the highest degree of joy.But that can happen
when the spirit is pure and unmixed by the air outside.
Limits and Continuity-
These are to be paid crucial attention to.When to limit a relationship and when to continue with it are the deciding factors of the
foundation of ones life.When a relation tends to turn into a heavy load,a full stop is what is required and must be used.But when we
visualise that a temporary halt can do some good,to bin the offals,three full stops can lead to continuity afresh.
"Sometimes,the real test of courage is to live and not to die..."
A Soul-Mate--'Making a straw of' does not help-
A friend can become your soul-mate when he is reliable,amiable,and yes,sincere.The 'chalta-hai' attitude will fetch nothing more worthy
than a bleeding solitary heart and lots of loneliness.A hint of formality can escort you to your destined soul-mate.
He is the one we don't think before speaking to.he is devoid of any evil (hard to find,though).He will prevent you from vices such as drinking,
drugs and smoking that prove to be fatal.He will never let you engage in an activity which is harmful in the smallest degree.
The girl and boy kinship-
The girl and boy agnation which has been altering every now and then beseeches a crystal clear acknowledgement.Until,the boy
and girl chip in the relationship in fine feather,it is considerable.But the exact moment when it starts bounding and enveloping ones free spirit
it must be abandoned for it is then when it initiates a halt in ones personal grooming and turns it into an onus.I don't agree to the fac that
a girl and a boy can never be friends-this is long discarded.The contemporary scenario is such that the opposite sex better fit together and
this is well proven by the scientific fact that "Opposites Attract",and well console each other's adversities and accolade each other's
interests.
"Celebrate the similarities,respect the differences.."
Or the profanity will imprison you for life.
Make a friend you can rely on and if your heart says he is true,he is.Turn a blind eye to the world.
"kuch to log kahenge,,logon ka kam he kehna..."
The shape of the choco-chip is not the matter of concern until it fulfils the sense of taste,and is sweet. the essence of saying this being-
"Age and sex no bar".
Your friend can be a book,your child,your parent,your sister/brother or even your grand parent.
Nothing else counts when all other traits are well shown.
"Try healing hearts and extend your list of true friends...
F-Few
R-Relations
I-In
E-Earth
N-Never
D-Die...
